Monday, September 29, 2008

Rude, Rude, Rude!

My sweet Aunt Diana was diagnosed with leukemia last week. My mother was able to go see her on Thursday and Friday. I wanted to go, but her doctor thought she had mono and we didn't want to risk that. Anyway, so Mom, my sis, me and my brother-in-law were all sitting in a pew yesterday waiting for church services to start. This lady comes up to Mom to offer her condolences about my Aunt. She then proceeds to tell Mom all about her husband who was diagnosed with leukemia and died six weeks later. I was talking to Chelley at the time and wasn't even paying attention to what the lady was saying. But Chelle did point it out to me and I wanted to kick that lady in the face! What an awful thing to say to someone! Why do people have to have their own story? Just say you're sorry and move on! We don't need to hear about your husband who died six weeks later from the same thing my Aunt was diagnosed with last week. Plus, it was a different strain of leukemia so it didn't even make sense that she was telling Mom this. This lady reminded me of a lady we knew where we used to live except she did the opposite. A woman had started visiting the church we were members of. Her husband had just died of Hodgkins. The lady that was a member told her all about how she had beat Hodgkins three times. How rude! Why don't people have better filters. Would they want us to do that to them? I'm so glad that I've had to battle infertility because I understand that sometimes just saying you're sorry and giving a hug is enough.

7 comments:

~*JaYmE*~ said...

I'm sorry about your aunt & I'm sorry about what the dumb lady said. I dont think some people think before they speak.

Nikki said...

I'm sorry about your Aunt's news Lisa. And you're right - people just need to stop giving out stories about the person they know who is dealing with what you're dealing with! Just a simple sorry is sufficient!

Take care.

Darya said...

I'm so sorry about your aunt. That's awful about that dumb lady.

I agree with you regarding IF- if it's done one good thing for me, it's taught me that sometimes saying you are sorry and giving a hug is the best thing we can offer someone.

Melanie said...

I'm so sorry about your aunt! I will pray for her and healing for her. I agree with you. People need to learn to hold their tongues!!! So what if you know someone that experienced it or whatever. Unless you are going to be supportive (in a simple good way)don't say it!

I Believe in Miracles said...

I am guilty of telling stories when I shouldn't. I need to remember this. I'm sorry about your aunt.

Anonymous said...

You are right..some people don't say the right things at the right time..or stay quiet at the right time either..and some people who need grace from Jesus don't extend it to others like they should!

Mainly a midwife said...

So true...