Wednesday, September 24, 2008

My Boss and Questions

My boss asked me this morning if I had started looking at daycare facilities yet. I haven't. She then told me that I need to start because they need me here. I'm in the process of bidding off on a job in a different department and if I got that job then I wouldn't be here anyway. I haven't told her that I'm bidding on anything. I'll get there eventually. Anyway, back to the daycare thing. I don't want my baby being raised by a daycare. I worked in daycare and I know what kind of influence children can get from other children whose parents don't have the same values that I do. And let's be realistic. That is what is going to happen. You may have 4 or 5 hours a day and weekends of good quality time with your child. The daycare has them for 8 to 9 hours a day. Plus, on weekends you are sleeping through the night so that time is out...we'll say 6 hours. Meaning you only get around 61 hours of time with your infant and daycare is getting around 45 hours of time with your infant. Too much in my opinion. Russ is frantically (ok, that's an exaggeration) searching for a job that can support all three of us so I can stay home with the baby. I didn't mention that small tidbit to my boss because I don't know if it's going to work out. But, the question did get my brain turning and and an effect of the cause, got my fingers typing. I don't know what is going to happen. If Russ could get a job that could support all of us, that would be ideal, but I'm also open to him getting a full time preaching position. Either one is good with me as long as I get to raise my baby and no one else does.

6 comments:

I Believe in Miracles said...

As always, you taking care of your child is ideal, but an alternative to day-care is a mom or someone at church who's looking to earn some extra income by keeping the baby. That's worked out well for families we know and avoids the day-care issue. Just a thought.

Mercedes said...

Not to be a downer, but I would look just in case. It is hard to find a day-care provider even if it is out of someone's home(we picked the latter.)It we be good to have a back up just in case you need a daycare. It would suck to have to pick one just because it was all that was available. I had a friend at work who had to do that and it hasn't gone so well. Hopefully you still will never need the day care provider and you will get to spend all day with your baby.

Unknown said...

I don't like daycare or any other care for my baby except me. I had to put my son in daycare when he was 8 wks old. Then I found a great lady that was my nieghbor when he was 2 and it was great. I think that you should just pray and things might work out for you so you don't have to work. There may have to be scrafices but you will find a way. You two have tried so hard for this baby you should do whatever you can to be able to enjoy it and not for someone else to get to see all the monents you worked so hard for. It is okay to think that you don't want your baby in someone elses arm but yours. That is just what i think. I hope it is helpful to you. :)

~*JaYmE*~ said...

I hear ya. I would love to be a SAHM or at least work part-time when I have children. Bad thing is that my husband is self employeed so I'm the one carrying the insurance. Its just too expensive to pay for an entire family's insurance by yourself. I'm hoping to find a job that I work maybe 3 12hr days so I can still get insurance. Wishful thinking huh? I hope you get to stay home w/your baby!

Mainly a midwife said...

Good for you. Try to stay home with your baby. When I had my son I went back to work b/c I had a friend at church who did daycare. She watched my son for about a year. I was at work one day when she called and told me about one of the "firsts" he did. I was crushed. I quit my job soon after. I stayed home with Katie. Now my kids are 6 and 4 and it's a lot easier to get out the door for my part-time job.

The Vincents said...

I hope that you get to do what's important to you and stay home with ifnit. I would definitely not mention any of this to anyone at work or related to work. It may influence how you are treated until the time comes, and you may want to keep that relationship intact in case you need it later. Plus, and here's the biggie, it's none of their business.