Sunday, January 25, 2009

In Response to a New Comment

"I just want to say that i am glad I am strong in my faith before reading this post. You really may want to step back and take a look at yourself. You are one of the most rude people I have ever heard about. Let me say this your child is not born and is not proven to be healthy yet. As far as that goes she could be born healthy and develop cancer or many other things later in life. How could you say you don't feel sorry for someone that lost a child. Are you a christian? In response to another post about 16 year old girls that can't love there baby? Age doesn't make you love your child. I am positive a 16 year old has a much better heart than you do. Really take a step back because what goes around comes around. God can take your child away as fast as she is growing inside of you. I can't imagine saying the things you say and claim to be a christian. Your right you don't have to like what people do, but that doesn't give you the right to be a cold hearted person. I would rather see a baby be born to a smoker than someone that is as judgemental and completely a horrible rude person!"

This is a comment I recieved today in response to a post I made a while back. You can read it here. I actually deleted the comment as soon as I got to the part about being one of the most rude people Anonymous has ever heard about then went back in and decided I would like to comment about the comment.

First of all, if you are going to say all these nasty things, don't put yourself under anonymous. Have the courage to actually stand up with your "strong faith" that you claim to have and speak out against my rude, horrible self. If you really believe all that, you shouldn't be ashamed of who you are.

Second, this blog is my blog. These are my opinions. You don't have to read it. As far as I know, everyone has an "x" in the upper, righthand corner of their computer screens. Just click on it and forget about what I said. If my opinions offend you, I'm sorry that you feel that way. But, I stand by what I said and I do believe that the choices one makes affects others and I believe that sometimes people deserve what they get from the choices they make.

Third, I'm not even sure what post about 16 year old girls is even being referred to here. I looked back through my archives to find it, but I blog a lot and gave up. If I said those exact words, then I'm sorry. I don't believe that a 16 year old girl can't love their baby. That would be a stupid belief. I knew a lot of girls in high school that had baby's and loved them very much. I don't believe that a teenager is incapable of love. I do believe that some girls and people in general are incapable of loving their baby's or anyone else besides their own selves. I'm sorry I don't have more of a comment for that...maybe if Anonymous would comment with what post it was in.

Fourth (and this is the last thing), I am well aware that my baby isn't born yet and that she may have health problems. I am well aware that God can take my baby away from me at any time. I'm not sure how being against smoking makes me unaware of what a marvelous blessing my husband and I have been given. I'm equally unaware how blogging about my beliefs and life make me a horrible, cold hearted, un-christian person.

I am a Christian and I stand up for what I believe in. My blog is not anonymous and there is a reason for that. I want people to be able to read what I have to say whether they agree with it or not. I want to try to reach out to those that have suffered from the same things I have and share my experience. I want to stand up for what I believe in because if I don't, I'll fall for anything. I love God and I love His commandments and I try to live my life by them. My name is Lisa (not Anonymous) and I am a Christian!
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Mainly a midwife said...

wow. isn't it amazing what people will say because they are cloaked with the internet's anonymity? they say things that they would NEVER say to your face.
I remember reading your smoking post. I didn't take it the way that anonymous did. I totally got your drift...which if I remember right was this: if you have a precious life growing inside you how could you expose it to smoke...

Kriss said...

Lisa, I am so sorry someone would write such hatefulness. I have never read your blog and thought anything other than what a sweet young wife and soon to be mother you are. Hopefully that commenter was just having a bad day and took it out on you. Hugs -kriss

Christina said...

Watch out for those anonymous people commenting. I've had a lot of rude ones lately and they comment on things I've never even said either.

Hollie said...

Wow... that is horrible. I remember disagreeing with you a few times in the past, but it can be done respectfully. There is no reason for that. Just keep doing what you are doing. It's your blog and you can say whatever you want to.

Anonymous said...

okay, so i'm going to anonymously comment on this post. ha. i just don't want a whole lot of new folks reading my semi-private blog. I will sign my name, though.

she was pretty harsh, yes. I can see why you didn't appreciate her response.

but, as a fellow christian who has followed your blog somewhat off and on (but missed that smoking post until you linked it today) I will add that your smoking post had some comments that showed a real lack of compassion that made me sad.

that's all I'll say.

Amy said...


I am one of those women who has lost children, and I would have given up EVERYTHING just to be able to have the very chance that so many women complain about.

It is a hard thing for some to understand when you are just stating the truth. I would have said and felt the same thing. I am not hiding nor am I going to. I have been going through for 13 years. I have lost 2 babies both of my tubes, and my ovaries have decided that they give up too.

I am upset... I feel like anyone given the responsibility of carrying and caring for a child should at least respect the life inside enough to give up THEIR vices. I would have given anything and everything to know that feeling, even now. I just don't understand how some will hide and comment about the love of Christ and honesty, we must also remember that even Jesus got angry. But He always spoke the truth, and I commend you for that no matter what anyone else says!!!!

Amy M.

Lexie said...

WOW! people are so harsh and easily offended! It's your blog you can say what you want! I for one, find your blog very inspirational. I look up to you and admire your faith!