To Get Together or Not To Get Together?

There is a group at the church we worship with called "The Young Married's." I fondly refer to them as "The Fertile People's Club." Up until now, Russ and I have attended many of the outings and events they have put on. The last few times have been exteremely difficult for us....ok, me. Finding ourselves knee deep in fertility treatments and going to get-togethers with families that have no idea what infertility is gets old real quick. Russ and I have not told these people about our infertility issues so we can't blame them for saying things to us like "when are you going to have children?" or "we won't make fun of you because you don't have children." But it hurts. Bad. For my own self-preservation, I can not go to these events anymore. The last event was so hard. I cried....at their house....luckily I was in a room with a closed door and only Russ knew, but still. So the question I'm having to ask myself is "Self, how do I need to deal with this?" Should we just suck it up and go and I'll be depressed the whole time and have to listen to women talk about their vaginal deliveries that took four hours or do I refuse to go and risk hurting the feelings of the host and hostess? I help teach a lot of these children in a Wednesday evening Bible Class and that is about all I can handle of beautiful children in a week. My heart just can not do this anymore. So, I'm going to go with the latter option and hope they'll be understanding.