tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-180520366718121377.post3023458397684529476..comments2023-09-01T03:15:25.664-05:00Comments on A day in the life of Preachmans Wife: Huh?Lisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12375277770535046144noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-180520366718121377.post-24311048613778619412008-10-29T22:38:00.000-05:002008-10-29T22:38:00.000-05:00well I'll speak to the "how can you not know you a...well I'll speak to the "how can you not know you are pregnant" question. It's called Denial. It's a strong and powerful motivator. I once took care of a 16 yr old (overweight) teenager who came through the ER complaining of "abdominal pain". ER transported her to labor and delivery saying that she was going to have a baby. The girl kept screaming her head off saying "I'm not pregnant, I'm not pregnant" right up until the head came out! <BR/>At that point there was no more denying it :)Mainly a midwifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10774653177391560892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-180520366718121377.post-71571619727587618822008-10-29T15:38:00.000-05:002008-10-29T15:38:00.000-05:00A small cup of coffee isn't proven to be harmful t...A small cup of coffee isn't proven to be harmful to baby. Smoking is. This girl wasn't a friend. Just a coworker. I understand that we are to love everyone, but that doesn't mean I have to like their actions.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12375277770535046144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-180520366718121377.post-59260197872669025042008-10-29T14:56:00.000-05:002008-10-29T14:56:00.000-05:00A friend and I were talking about that today in th...A friend and I were talking about that today in the car -- whether we should give up a small cup of coffee in the morning during our ttc stage. Or a glass of wine on occasion. And yet we wonder about the mothers who smoke, drink, drugs, and goodness knows what else and have no trouble conceiving or staying pregnant. And yet those people who seem to do "everything right" still either don't get pregnant or the baby dies 2 months prior to birth or whatever... It's such a toss up. You may not agree with your friends (is she a friend) actions, and she may not agree with your opinions. But we are called to love one another as Christ loved us, and speaking to myself here too, sometimes it is hard to set aside differences or things we disagree on and love our neighbors. That's the big need for grace. <BR/>**HUGS**<BR/><BR/>Sorry - didn't mean to be preachyI Believe in Miracleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07062124038472752680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-180520366718121377.post-32508218322646987042008-10-29T14:47:00.000-05:002008-10-29T14:47:00.000-05:00Hollie, I just couldn't feel sorry for her after a...Hollie, I just couldn't feel sorry for her after all of the horrible things she said about her baby. I know that sounds super harsh, but it's the truth. Also, I was trying to make a distinction between the smoking and the hot dogs. Smoking is proven to be bad for your health. Hot dogs - not so much. But, it's just my opinion so take it for what it is worth.<BR/><BR/>Also, I understand about addictions, but there comes a time when you have to decide what is more important. Your cravings or your baby. I think people are selfish who don't quit. There is a girl where I work now that quit the day she found out she was pregnant. She wasn't a once in a while smoker, either. She was a pack a day for several years smoker so I know it's possible. Not fun I'm sure, but possible.<BR/><BR/>I heard about that show on TLC and I'm dying to see it! I just can't wrap my brain around not knowing that you're pregnant or that something is up for 7 months! I'm going to keep my eyes peeled for when it airs next!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12375277770535046144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-180520366718121377.post-31257606504986890372008-10-29T11:03:00.000-05:002008-10-29T11:03:00.000-05:00Good post Lisa. I agree with you on some points a...Good post Lisa. I agree with you on some points and disagree respectfully with others. <BR/><BR/>I will always feel sorrow for a mother who has lost her child, whether it's her fault or not. What if our lunch meat or hot dogs got us sick? Would it be our fault? Would we be deserving of sympathy? Of course.<BR/><BR/>I felt the same as you about not understanding how women could not know they are pregnant until 6-7-8-9 months, then I saw this show on TLC or Discovery Health called "I didn't know I was pregnant." All of the cases were understandable. The women had very irregular periods. One woman never had a period, then was having strange symptoms, even went to the dr more than once, and they never did a test, and she had twins! It helped me understand better.<BR/><BR/>About the smoking - I hate seeing a pregnant woman smoke. I used to enjoy a cigarette and a glass of wine to relax, but when I started ivf, that all stopped. I don't see how a woman can risk her baby, but I do know that addiction is real, and quitting is hard for some people. Some drs even tell patients that it's ok to smoke (crazy I know). <BR/><BR/>And lots of mothers don't feel close to their baby until after it is born. That's another thing I can't understand, but it happens. My cousin planned on putting her baby up for adoption, didn't buy any baby stuff or have a shower or anything, but after he was born, she couldn't give him up. <BR/><BR/>Just my thoughts. I do think that IF girls are more careful about what they do during pregnancy.Holliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16033760652598751809noreply@blogger.com